fix(tests): align stale tests with current behavior

- swarm/test_swarm_api, swarm/test_heartbeat: replace deprecated
  asyncio.get_event_loop().run_until_complete() with asyncio.run();
  the former raises in 3.11 once another test has set+closed a loop on
  the main thread.
- prober/test_prober_bus, prober/test_prober_worker: extend tcp_fingerprint
  mocks with tos/dscp/ecn/server_isn so the worker doesn't KeyError into
  the prober_error branch.
- services/test_service_isolation: collector now retries on event-stream
  errors instead of exiting; assert it stays running and cancel cleanly.
- live/test_imap_live, live/test_pop3_live: log format emits
  outcome="failure", not "failed".
- live/test_service_isolation_live: is_service_container accepts label
  OR state-name; rewrite the empty-state test against a synthetic
  unlabeled container instead of the host's real fleet.

tests/prober/test_prober_bus.py

@@ -114,6 +114,10 @@ def test_tcpfp_phase_invokes_publish_fn_on_success(monkeypatch, tmp_path: Path)
             "sack_ok": True,
             "timestamp": True,
             "options_order": "mss,sack,ts,nop,wscale",
+            "tos": 0,
+            "dscp": 0,
+            "ecn": 0,
+            "server_isn": 0,
         },
     )