feat(swarm): remote teardown API + UI (per-decky and per-host)

Agents already exposed POST /teardown; the master was missing the plumbing
to reach it. Add:

- POST /api/v1/swarm/hosts/{uuid}/teardown — admin-gated. Body
  {decky_id: str|null}: null tears the whole host, a value tears one decky.
  On worker failure the master returns 502 and leaves DB shards intact so
  master and agent stay aligned.
- BaseRepository.delete_decky_shard(name) + sqlmodel impl for per-decky
  cleanup after a single-decky teardown.
- SwarmHosts page: "Teardown all" button (keeps host enrolled).
- SwarmDeckies page: per-row "Teardown" button.

Also exclude setuptools' build/ staging dir from the enrollment tarball —
`pip install -e` on the master generates build/lib/decnet_web/node_modules
and the bundle walker was leaking it to agents. Align pyproject's bandit
exclude with the git-hook invocation so both skip decnet/templates/.

decnet/web/db/repository.py

@@ -228,3 +228,6 @@ class BaseRepository(ABC):
 
     async def delete_decky_shards_for_host(self, host_uuid: str) -> int:
         raise NotImplementedError
+
+    async def delete_decky_shard(self, decky_name: str) -> bool:
+        raise NotImplementedError