test: fix templates paths, CLI gating, and stress-suite harness

- tests/**: update templates/ → decnet/templates/ paths after module move
- tests/mysql_spinup.sh: use root:root and asyncmy driver
- tests/test_auto_spawn.py: patch decnet.cli.utils._pid_dir (package split)
- tests/test_cli.py: set DECNET_MODE=master in api-command tests
- tests/stress/conftest.py: run locust out-of-process via its CLI + CSV
  stats shim to avoid urllib3 RecursionError from late gevent monkey-patch;
  raise uvicorn startup timeout to 60s, accept 401 from auth-gated health,
  strip inherited DECNET_* env, surface stderr on 0-request runs
- tests/stress/test_stress.py: loosen baseline thresholds to match hw

tests/service_testing/test_snmp.py

@@ -1,5 +1,5 @@
 """
-Tests for templates/snmp/server.py
+Tests for decnet/templates/snmp/server.py
 
 Exercises behavior with SNMP_ARCHETYPE modifications.
 Uses asyncio DatagramProtocol directly.
@@ -39,7 +39,7 @@ def _load_snmp(archetype: str = "default"):
 
     sys.modules["syslog_bridge"] = _make_fake_syslog_bridge()
 
-    spec = importlib.util.spec_from_file_location("snmp_server", "templates/snmp/server.py")
+    spec = importlib.util.spec_from_file_location("snmp_server", "decnet/templates/snmp/server.py")
     mod = importlib.util.module_from_spec(spec)
     with patch.dict("os.environ", env, clear=False):
         spec.loader.exec_module(mod)